Back in March, a good friend of mine had been right smack in the middle of a semester abroad, living out a dream and residing in the heart of Salamanca in Spain — and then the coronavirus hit. At first, she was hopeful that the threat would be minimal, that she could safely shelter in place, complete coursework online, and finish out the school year before returning home.
I think we probably all wish that had been the case, all around, but it didn’t last.
My husband has thrown me away, no compassion, no love. Hateful. I have spent the last 26 years in various therapies with no help. I want to go Home.
I have been a throw away all my life. No tolerance for me. Apparently I have to pull myself up. People have no time for this. My heart is broken. I don't know what to do. Is there any Health Journeys help for me?
Here’s a question for you, now that we’re a little halfway through this mishigas of a year: what does “normal” even mean anymore?
I won’t quote dictionaries at you; you know better than anyone else what normal looks like for you. As humans, we’re simple creatures of habit. We get into routines, we set our own boundaries, we develop preferences and nurture them. We create our normal, settle in and get comfortable — and then along comes a pandemic to throw everything into the air like so many juggling balls.
We talk about shame in the singular quite a bit, don’t we? Sometimes we partner it with guilt (though, as we’ve said before, we do make sure to separate the two), but shame rarely works alone. That’s because it tends to create more problems and delay healing others.
Here are some studies that tell the tale — or some important new pieces of it:
Have you ever walked into a room full of people and immediately doubted your right to be there? Or stared at yourself in a dressing room, convinced you were looking into a funhouse mirror? Did you ever wonder if everyone around you could tell you were faking it (whatever “it” is), and that at any moment, they’d call you out as a phony?
It’s hard enough existing in the unforgiving public eye, let alone when we carry that punishing and often cruel perspective into our most private spaces. And I don’t just mean our houses — I mean our hearts, souls, minds, bodies, and spirits.
Midway through 2020, I still feel like I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop. Between the Australian wildfires, the rageful political rhetoric, economic distress, the anticipated spread of the sneakiest virus ever, and…
Oh, wait — that was just January.
Okay. Needless to say, we’ve all had a lot on our plates, and the COVID-19 pandemic has been arguably our greatest underlying source of anxiety, frustration, disorientation, anger, depression, fear, and irritability.
I’m really happy we produced Emmett Miller’s exceptionally powerful, high-test guided imagery for healing shame. It’s arguably one of his all-time best meditations, ever. Please check it out.
Now, although I agree with Emmett’s insights on Youtube about the difference between guilt and shame, I also adhere to the even more basic, old fashioned, rock-bottom, psychodynamic distinction between these two highly yucky feelings.
I've downloaded A Meditation to Help With Fibromyalgia & Chronic Fatigue among others.
Unlike the other meditations I've downloaded, this sounds very general, nothing specific to fibromyalgia and CFS. Can you please confirm I've downloaded what I have purchased?
There's something about longer, warmer summer days that makes it impossible not to crave a break from rules and routine. This sentiment rings especially true this year, after months of isolation and major disruption of all the usual rituals of Spring & early Summer. I can't remember the last time I wanted to get out of my house this badly!
And because summer is summer, there's a special collection of mishaps awaiting us once we've dashed into the great outdoors. I’m not just talking about losing a flip-flop or getting “brain freeze” from a too-big bite of ice cream. These summer health hazards can really ruin the rest of your day...or the rest of the season:
I am very interested in the effects of guided imagery on people who have been traumatized. I can see how guided imagery can be difficult to handle and create more anxiety. I can also see how it could be helpful when done in a safe way.
Do you have any suggestions or thoughts on how to teach guided imagery to a person with a history of trauma?