Ask BR: Rediscovering Self-Worth, Reclaiming Your Future After Abandonment

Dear BR,

My husband has thrown me away, no compassion, no love.  Hateful.  I have spent the last 26 years in various therapies with no help.  I want to go Home. 

I have been a throw away all my life.   No tolerance for me.  Apparently I have to pull myself up.  People have no time for this. My heart is broken.  I don't know what to do.   Is there any Health Journeys help for me?

I will continue to try.  If there is any way.   This morning I want to die and go home With Mama and Dad and my sweet nephew.   My thoughts are waiting outside until I’m gone.    God is my refuge and my strength.   But I can’t find Him anymore.  I feel empty.  Can I start over alone? I listen to Health Journeys everyday.    I feel desperate.  Afraid of people.   God pls help me.

Linda Jean


I’m sorry you’re in so much pain and distress.

Perhaps it’s a blessing in disguise to no longer be in the company of such a contemptuous companion who does not value you, and has probably been making you feel less than your true self for years and years. I know, that’s easy for me to say, but it’s probably true just the same.

I hope you can find the strength to carry on, and rebuild your self-esteem and sense of worth in his absence, where you will no longer be polluted and blinded by his toxic attitude toward you.

If you are feeling suicidal, I hope you will call the hotline at 1-800-273-8255, and talk to someone. 

But maybe you won’t need to do that, if you can reframe your thinking from “I’ve been left” to “I’ve been liberated”.

My best wishes to you,


Thank you so much Belleruth.  I listen to Health Journeys every day,  sometimes twice a day.  But things have been so hurtful, I was lost.  I have hope now.

May God bless you and keep you in his care.  I will keep this email forever.


Linda Jean