Here’s to One Helluva Dad
Here’s to all the fathers out there, juggling love and work, to do their best for their kids. Chances are, they’re more actively involved with their children’s lives than their own fathers were with theirs. Happy Father’s Day to all of them!
I was lucky enough to have had a husband who changed diapers, walked and crooned his kids to sleep (murderously off-key, I should add), and took them off my hands and out of the house when I had a big project or a dinner party to produce. (This, mind you, was in spite of the fact that he was born in 1938).
He was actively involved in their moral and academic education, took the lead in parent meetings, pushed them when they were falling short, and showed them empathy and compassion when they needed it.
On what was supposed to be a fun, father-son road trip, he wound up rushing his eighth grader to a hospital in time to avert a terrible health disaster; and he saved our 6-year-old from drowning when the kid fell off a pier, some distance away, unnoticed by everyone else, including me.
He set a great, if sometimes intimidating, example of parenting for our kids.
He also modeled a natural respect and appreciation for his spouse. Would you believe he never left the table without thanking me for dinner? And I thought that was normal behavior, because he did it all the time. Sometimes when dinner didn't come out so great, he still thanked me and commented that it had been interesting.
When I look back on that now, I marvel at how remarkable that was – almost 40 years of dinner thank yous. It came so easily to him, it seemed like no big deal at the time. But it was a big deal. And this was another aspect of being a good father - showing my kids that spousal appreciation was part of family life.
He managed all this in spite of the fact that he was a hard-driving, successful professional – the dean of a graduate school and a social policy maker with national impact – not to mention a nonstop community volunteer.
My kids got a great template to follow and they haven't disappointed. My thanks go to the late, great Art Naparstek for that. I’m sorry he didn’t get to experience his kids with their own kids, because he'd have been over the moon. He very well may be watching from a special perch, cracking his goofy jokes and asking some hapless passerby how fabulous his kids are.
So, Happy Fathers Day, everyone! Honor your guy with 20% off anything in our Sports Performance category, no coupon needed. Give him something to help get better at golf; quit putting off that big project; feel more confident at work… whatever he needs.
PS Did you know that it's also National Men's Health Week? We love to promote the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health and wellness of all men and boys (and, of course, the women who love them). So we've gathered some good resources with more information about men's health, take a look:
- Healthfinder.gov. Guides and tools for healthy living, an encyclopedia of health-related topics, health news, and more. Go to: http://www.healthfinder.gov.
- Men's Health. An AHRQ Web site on health for men. Go to: https://www.ahrq.gov/treatmentoptions/health-topics/mens-health.html.
- MedlinePlus. Health information from government agencies and health organizations, including a medical encyclopedia and health tools. Go to: http://medlineplus.gov.
- Questions Are the Answer. Information on how to get involved in your health care by asking questions, understanding your condition, and learning about your options. Go to: http://www.ahrq.gov/questionsaretheanswer.
Take care, and be well.