Is This Psychic Knowing or Is She Kidding Herself about This "Soul Mate" ?
I just finished reading your book on intuition and I feel like you were talking to me personally. I relate to everything you describe. I am a 42 year old empath who has been psychic all my life. I am blessed that my gift guides me in everything I do.
My question has to do with a deep knowing that a man at work is meant for me. I knew from the first time I saw him that he was my true soul mate, but he is very shy. He doesn’t respond to our connection. I believe his shyness keeps him at a distance.
How do I share this knowledge with him and allow him to see what I see? You talk in the book about how and when to share psychic information with others, but not regarding this situation. I would appreciate your advice.
Oh boy. I know you may not want to hear this, but I advise you to back off and reconsider from whence this intuitive wisdom is coming!
One of the things I say in the book, as a result of interviewing 43 working intuitives, is that no one is correct 100% of the time - not even the most gifted and skillful psychic. And that our ‘knowing’ is most suspect when it reflects a personal wish or fear.
That’s why we need to understand our motives and know our personal filters. Otherwise, you could be projecting your wish for a relationship onto this shy guy and claiming it as ‘Truth’.
This can turn into a form of interpersonal imperialism that goes something like this: You were meant for me and you love me, even if you don’t know it. Why? Because I say so and I’m psychic!
You see how dangerous this thinking could be, and how potentially out of touch with reality it could lead you.
So the recommendation in the book, in the chapter on General Cautions & Ethical Concerns , is that we are always obliged to second guess an ‘insight’ that happens to coincide with a wish or fear, and to seek external data that either confirms or invalidates your assumption.
And when in doubt, do nothing. Otherwise you risk imposing your “stuff” on an unsuspecting person who will not welcome having his boundaries invaded by being told how he really feels, whether he knows it or not.
So, enough with the general principles, Oleanna. Here’s my advice: back off. Try to reassess your assumptions, examining him objectively for any external signals of interest. Ask a friend at work what she thinks. See if he seeks you out in any way, on his own. Do his pupils dilate when he looks at you? Does he come up with reasons to approach you at work? Do you catch him staring at you? In other words, do what all responsible intuitives do - get other sources of data to confirm or deny what you think you know.
And, as I say in the book, be willing to be wrong. Even if you very much don’t want to be - actually, especially then - that’s when it’s really important.