I am a psychologist who discovered six years ago that I possess the gift of mediumship. I fear I will be negatively viewed by my colleagues if they discover this, and feel a bit of a coward.. Question:

Dear Belleruth, I''m halfway through your book, Your Sixth Sense and can relate to it in so many ways. I am a psychologist with a thriving private practice and discovered six years ago that I possess the gift of mediumship. While I have done hundreds of readings, I have been highly discreet, and no one in the professional community knows about this aspect of my life.

Basically, I''m afraid I will be negatively viewed by the physicians and other professionals in my community. I feel a bit of a coward. I notice that many psychologists and therapists are mentioned in your book. No mention was made of their anxiety about going public. Any suggestions on how I might overcome my fear so I will be more open about this aspect of my life? Many thanks.


Dear Henry,
This is a great question, and if I don’t watch out, I’ll write way too much in reply. I’ll try to keep it short and sweet. There were in fact a couple of people I interviewed for Your Sixth Sense who did not want their names used one was a therapist and one was an organizational consultant in the business world. But most didn’t care. Either they were out and well-established in their professional lives, or they were not part of a professional community that could potentially give them grief.

I suspect that part of your problem with this may be terminology. The term mediumship could be an eyebrow-raiser for your colleagues, as a whole separate work life of giving readings might be. Certainly giving readings is great practice for enhancing your intuitive skills, but I would guess that the more you bring that capacity into your legit psychotherapy practice, integrating your psychic insights into your day-to-day work, the less of a problem this will be for you. You’ll just be deploying your gifts within the very congruent context of your psychotherapy practice, where you can be as psychic as you please, as long as you follow the guidelines I suggest in the book to keep from inappropriately running amok with insights and psychic pops and whatever.

I don’t think you have to make declarations of psychic ability or mediumship – indeed, I would venture to guess that most gifted, energized, un-burnt-out psychotherapists are pretty psychic anyway. The problem may be in your own internal sense that these are two separate, incompatible things. They’re not.

That’s not to minimize the external professional judgments that are out there. Some of your colleagues are sure to look askance. But you needn’t let that define you. Start thinking of your skills as normal (they are), use regular language to describe them, incorporate them into your work, and a healthy integration will follow.

Another book I recommend you read is Extraordinary Knowing: Science, Skepticism and the Inexplicable Powers of the Human Mind by the late Elizabeth Lloyd Mayer, who struggled with these same issues. It’s a great read.

Take care and