Is there any help for profound grief?
I'm wondering what the best cds would be for grief around the loss of health that will not be the same again and how this change affects relationships/work/options, etc.
A therapist dealing with her own major losses, traumatic grief, anger, panic attacks and PTS asks which meditations would be best for her, to complement and fortify the work she is doing in psychotherapy.
I recently lost both parents - my mom after a long illness, and my dad killed himself a few months later.
After an argument with me, he went upstairs and shot himself. I found him. It was a huge trauma, and I have been in great distress ever since.
We got this touching, inspiring note from Kelly, whose husband, died at a very young age - 33 - from a very difficult kind of cancer.
Many new widows would have needed to just stay put and grieve for two to three years – sometimes that’s exactly what is needed and the essence of sound self-care and deep wisdom, to just stay put and heal.
But Kelly had a “call to action” that was the right thing for her, and a great help to others. Check out how she created “Bobby’s Toolbox”, to honor the memory of her carpenter husband and provide help to others. Here is her note:
We got this question from someone who attended the awesome Healing Beyond Borders conference.
She’d had an uncomfortable response to a guided imagery experience that I’d introduced to the whole room. Where most everyone had a positive, healing, sometimes deeply moving experience, she “came back” from the altered state cranky, irritable and troubled. She wonders what that was all about and how to deal with it.
We got this note from a grateful veteran. It meant a lot to all of us.
Dear Belleruth and Health Journeys,
Several years ago, I was deployed to Iraq with the Army. During this deployment, I witnessed and experienced many events and circumstances that still stay with me. You could say I’ve been haunted.
My name is Bonnie M. I'm a married, 52-year-old mother of three sons, and I teach elementary school. The past year and a half has been extremely hard on our family. Our oldest son, Maxim, age 26, died of a drug overdose at our home. He was a bright, gifted young man who struggled with bipolar disorder.
Then three months later, my wonderful father passed away of an inoperable cancer in his gut.
Six months later, a very close friend died in a car crash, practically in front of our house. This friend had been an advocate and friend to Maxim and our family during his chaotic and tumultuous teen years, and helped us greatly in our grief when he died.
Talk about feeling vulnerable twice over! This question came from a woman who loses her speech in stressful situations, probably brought on by the death of her spouse. As I say in the reply, this is a situation made to order for generating panic attacks, and she’s got enough trouble as it is. Check it out – this reaction is more common than you might think.
The other night, I was seated at a supper party with a woman who was very quiet, still grieving the loss of her mother, who had died only a few months earlier.
With some effort, she explained that this was why she didn’t feel like talking, and certainly not the small talk at the table.
I told her about a woman from my D.C. practice, decades ago, who taught me a lot about grief. She was a cranky, sarcastic curmudgeon of a senior citizen, who used to complain about her exasperating idiot of a husband. Then he died suddenly of a stroke.