What Priscilla Does When She's Sad
My friend, Martha Howard, sent me a copy of an old list that was published by Therese Borchard on her popular Beliefnet blog, Beyond Blue, in answer to the question, “What do you do when you’re sad?”.
She asked it of Priscilla Warner, author of The Faith Club and soon-to-be author of a new book on overcoming panic attacks. (The generous and uber-productive Priscilla reports on her many panic-defeating adventures and learnings at her own engaging, humorous, profound blog here. - really you must check it out when you have time.)
But here’s the list she gave to Therese - some of it may be outdated for Priscilla now, but it’s a fine list just the same (and I would find it so even if she hadn’t mentioned my guided imagery in #10). So here’s how it went - Therese writes:
Over the weekend, I e-mailed my friend Priscilla Warner to ask her what
she does when she feels sad, when she experiences the emptiness in her
heart, the hole in her soul that my writing teacher Laura Oliver talks
about in Wednesday's video. She had these suggestions:
- E-mailing friends
- Thanking God every morning for returning my soul to my body, for
Jimmy, Max and Jack and the love God planted in our hearts, for making
us people capable of feeling the kind of love we feel for each other.
Not everyone can experience that feeling. For keeping us healthy, safe
and sound and free from serious injury or harm. For helping us to
spread love around the world.
YOU DO THAT WITH EVERY HIT ON BEYOND BLUE!!!
- Sorry, NO sugar
- I've been walking for 1 1/2 hrs - I'm so tired that I don't have the energy to be sad! And some endorphins too.
- A scented candle I love.
- WORK. Creative stuff - writing or making jewelry.
- Retail therapy - buy something, even if it's taking ten minutes to
pick out the best oranges you can find that you know are really really
- Junk TV or movie watching - or go to youtube and surf around and look at stupid stuff.
- A great meditation CD I have - sorry but it does work... I love
this woman's voice - check out Ruth Naperstack's (sic) website and
panic attack CD – I am addicted to it.
- Change your addictions to healthy ones like panic attack CDs.
- A tiny piece of very dark chocolate.
- Listen to some sad songs, cry a little bit for release and then stop, force yourself to go outside and look at some flowers.
- Check out Beliefnet, read what other people have posted with such warmth, authenticity and generosity.
- Hug my dog Mickey a lot - somewhere I read that brings your blood pressure down.
- Call someone on the phone and admit that I'm sad even though I
don't feel entitled to be because I am so very fortunate. Usually
friends respond in a lovely way - the other day, my friends Monica and
Anne showed up on my doorstep and forced me to come out of the house
with them. They were only going to the shoe repair man, but I came
along and focused on fixing my shoe instead of being sad. Distraction
works. Confession: we did stop for a cupcake (sugary) which we split on
the way home.)
- Remind myself that I have shifting hormones.
- Remind myself that even though the cause of my sadness is sometimes because my mother has Alzheimers and my father has been gone for years, and my children are leaving the nest, the very last thing any one of them would want is for me to be sad. Many many people would be sad to know that I'm sad (like the ones who dragged me out to the shoe repair man).
There’s something for everyone on this list, eh?
Take care and be well.